Trying to meet single women can become a huge challenge once you hit 30 years old. Going to the bars is not very attractive. The women our mothers point out are not really the kind of women we are interested in. Our buddies are mostly married, or just out for a good time. The real trick is to finding single women is to help them find you.

One way to go about finding single women is to start going to singles groups at churches, community events, and even speed dating sessions. You will run into many women looking for men, but the odds are they will be very shy about interacting with the men. They do not feel completely safe.

The best way I found to meet single women was online. I know, there are all the bad connotations of finding women through a match making site. I just ignored those issues and went ahead and posted a singles ad, and took my chances. I was surprised when I was contacted by attractive women before I had even tried to start contacting them. To make sure you understand why I was so shocked you need to understand a little about me.

When I posted my first ad I was just over 40 years old. I was also a little overweight. I am not a great looking guy. I was afraid I was going to be overlooked and ignored online. I had mentioned my plans to a few friends and they were all suggesting embellishing my profile a little bit, or maybe extremely. The suggested I try to make my life sound more exciting than it really was. I chose to go another route. I was 100% honest about who I am, what my dreams were, and what kind of woman I really wanted to meet. Instead of being someone else, I was completely real, completely me.

I am convinced the reason it flipped from my efforts in finding single women to women looking for me, was due to my candid straight forward approach. Single women are not expecting you to be a miracle, they want a real man, who is willing to share their lives with them.

My shock was even greater when I met the woman of my dreams. I will admit she was one of the women I contacted. It was totally on a whim since she was 20 years younger than me, I simply thought she was beautiful, and told her. I was hoping she would at least respond, and we could be friends, I never expected her to be interested in me. As she explained to me later, I was honest, caring, thoughtful, and enjoyable to visit with. She connected with who I was instead of the hype she was catching from so many other guys. I no longer need to meet single women. Today I am happily married, have a child, and another on the way.

Source by Barry Hanes